Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

hi

I am new here

Bumped into this forum and am so glad I did.

I made a personal decision to abstain/be celibate till I am married.

This is the only way I can explore other interests and hobbies without being obsessed with sex and intimacy.

Through personal analysis I have discovered that sex has messed up my good relationships with friends and family because of all the strings attached to it.

I have a feeling we're going to be good friends for a very long time. I love you already.....

Hi rot,

It's good to have you in the group. I am happy you bumped into us. I wish that more people would post here, but this group does tend to be quite slow, but I suppose it's just the day and age we live in, and it's really sad, but maybe you can help get some discussions started.

I think you have made a wise decision to abstain until marriage. You're right about not waiting causing so many problems and complications. I hope you will make many friends here, and please feel free to private message me anytime with any questions or concerns you may have.

Robbie

wow, that was prompt.

To be honest, I didn't expect anyone to respond. It's one of those things that you assume you're on your own.

Thanks though. I will definitely keep in touch because I really need a shoulder

I also think its awesome you have decided to wait. I was raised to wait till marriage. I wanted my first to be the one i married and he is. We had sex before marriage. We split up for a bit way back when we were dating and i did sleep with someone else (honestly 2 ppl) and its caused me so many problems with guilt and having to tell him when things picked back up. I felt like, for lack of a better word, a whore. 3 people in your lifetime may not seem like a lot to some but for me it was 2 too many. It tarnished his image of me. Looking back I think it was part of the borderline and bipolar disorder but ultimately i am responsible for my actions. That was in my teen years and its past me but i still sometimes stuggle with the guilt. My now husband and I decided to practice abstinance after we already had sex and started going to church. It was something God laid on my heart and we tried very hard. We occasionally slipped up but did our best and it made things better for our honeymoon. If i could do it over i would have only slept with my now husband. I wont lie and say i would have waited like i wanted to because well, i wouldnt have. I would have still been with my husband but i would have had more control mentally and physically not to let the other happen. Those i regret and try to push as far back in my mind as to never remember it happened. I wish i would have only been with my husband. Come to find out, it was something he found very special about me. I still deal with thinking " I ruined the one thing that made me special". Its always better to wait. Plus, he had been with several people before me so now im always comparing myself in my head and doubting myself. Glad you found this place. I know you will find support. Stay strong and keep your priorities in order. Youre doin good.

with everyday, i'm moving closer to sanity and healthy relationships

Hi rot,

It's really good to hear from you, and I'm happy to hear that things are going well with you, and you feel you are moving in the right direction. I hope it continues.

Robbie