Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

I am 39 years old. I have suffered from abuse my entire life. All of my relationships have been abusive in nature. I just recently ended a 5 year relationship that was mentally, physically, and emotionally abusive. After suffering for so long and finally getting free, I was able to look at my life and realize that I was giving myself away trying to secure love and affection. For 25 years, I had been just giving in to anyone that offered love and security. I did not value or respect myself. I would get in a relationship and jump right into another one. I would find another man to get me out of the current situation and it went on and on. Now, I am taking time to reflect. I have found support in my emotional abuse group and now that I have decidded to take time out from relationships and learn who I am and learn to value and respect myself. To date, it has not been hard being alone. My abuse was so traumatic, I think I am still in shock. But I am determined to take my time and heal. I am not angry at men. I could find one today if I wanted. Yes, I want someone to love me...but I have got to start loving myself first. I am looking forward to the added support of this group.

Taking time out and learning who you are sounds like a really empowering, and exciting journey, that will inevitably help you learn to find love within yourself. Self-respect is a huge component to healthy relationships I've found. I've had a few good ones, a couple not-so-good ones due to my self-esteem and other things just weighing me down, and I feel like I'm back on the road to finding myself despite the curve balls life has thrown at me. Best wishes on your healing and this journey ahead.

Thanks! So far so good...I have been asked out a few times but when I think about what comes with that I am ok saying no. I don't feel I am missing anything. It is just not time yet and I am ok with that. It has been empowering and I feel empowered and at peace. Best wishes to you as well!

I always teach that if you cannot be happy alone you cannot br happy with others!