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|Fibro Attitude Is Definitely Essential|
|Written by Clarita|
|15 March 2012|
Fibro ATTITUDE Is Definitely Essential ~ Clarita
* Invisible Disabled Enabled Ally
" The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief." ~ William Shakespeare
1) Acceptance :- Letting go of a life planned to embrace life's current circumstances in full. You need to ensure that fibro does not define you, yet, you must not live in denial either- the fibro lives within you, however, within you is something stronger than the fibro!
" Rise above the storm and you will find the sunshine"- Mario Fernandez
" We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey."- Kenji Miyazawa
" You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude towards what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you."- Sir Ram
"I have a disability yes that's true, but all that really means is I may have to take a slightly different path. - Robert M Hensel
2) Thankfulness:- You may find it helpful to keep a gratitude journal- try to list at least 5 reasons to be thankful each day- matters not how small they may seem to be either. When we count our blessings in helps us to foster a more positive mindset.
" Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize nothing is lacking, the whole world belongs to you." - Lao Tzu
"Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you're going to live your life."- Joel Osteen
Ensure you always show your appreciation to everyone who shows you love, care, empathy, tenderness, encouragement- helps you when you are holding on tightly, as well as show your gratitude to those who offer to help you out practically- let them know you are thankful for all they do/say.
3) Tenderness:- Be gentle/compassionate with your fine self, kind with all fellow fibromites, as well as tender with non fibromites/normals. As fibromites we have several tender points throughout our body, yet, are we tender with ourselves as well as others around us?
" I have just 3 things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion- these are your greatest treasures."- Lao Tzu
" Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim."- Nora Ephron
" If you find you are not valued or appreciated, then shift your attention to places where you will be valued and appreciated."- Celestine Chua
It is vital to keep away from toxic individuals/energy vampires. Ensure you are in good company- people who support you, understand your fibro needs as well as lift your spirits. Sometimes you just need to educate loved ones or be patient until they come on side. Protect your emotions. Stress is not good for us fibromites. Also, be tender with yourselves in keeping your speech plus internal dialogue as positive as possible as well as pace yourself as well as you possibly can. Simplicity, patience as well as compassion are indeed a fibromites greatest treasures.
4) Invisible Disabled Enabled Ally (IDEA):- You have an invisible disablity, however, you can be enabled to live a decent quality of life with fibro- no matter how severely you may be affected. What is more, you can also enable others to lead a dynamic positive life!
" You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together."- Anonymous
Helpful websites:- http://www.invisibledisabilities.org/
You can learn to be your own best friend as well as be an ally to fellow fibromites- thus enabling you to live with courage, peace, positivity, authentic happiness as well as resilience.
"As we help others, we cannot help but help ourselves."- Ben Cohen
"If you light a lamp for someone else it will also brighten your path."- Buddha
"You're brave than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."- A.A. Milne
Essential that you have all the mobility aids you need, heating pad, cushions, therapies/alternative therapies, tens machine, and everything that can ease your challenges, make you comfortable/ease your pains or tenderness as well as keep you safe.
5)Transformation:- You need to do whatever it takes to be a fibro survivor as oppossed to being a fibro victim. It is not easy, yet, nothing worthwhile is every easy anyhow. You can learn/train yourself up to be your own life coach. However, if you are struggling to be positive then please seek out professional help by contacting a life coach, NLP therapist, counselor or perhaps a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist.
" Franklin's illness... gave him strength and courage he had not had before. He had to think out the fundamentals of living and learn the greatest of all lessons- infinite patience and never-ending persistence."~ Eleanor Roosevelt(wife of Franklin Delano Roosevelt)
" Don't give up trying to find your way. But do remember that sometimes it takes bending to avoid breaking." ~ Katinka Hesselink
"There are two ways of meeting difficulties: you alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them."- Phyllis Battome
6) Uplift:- Raise your spirits. Find ways of distracting yourself- low energy hobbies or even escape in your imagination- take your mind off your pains/challenges as much as you are able to. Take your humour/humor medicine daily too- scientifically proven to help alleviate the pains a notch or two. Talk more positively about yourself and even about the fibro itself. Stop yourself when you find yourself engaged in negative self talk or thinking, or making the fibro bigger than you. Refuse to live in the past or to dream too much of the future- live as full as you can right here right now!
" You may not be able to change a situation, but with humour/humor, you can change your attitude about it." - Allen Klein
"Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats." - Voltaire
"Staying positive is one of the hardest fights, though I'm happy I'm in it."- Daniel
"Everyday may not be good, but there's something good in every day."- unknown author
7) Diet:- Everything in life is about achieving a healthy balance- this also includes having a healthy balanced diet as well as achieving a healthy weight. If you are unsure if you are having the optimum nutrition then visit a nutritionist for expert advice. Often times we can comfort eat when in pain, especially craving sugary/unhealthy foods- so we need to be aware of this as we can put our already delicate health at risk of further health complications like diabetes as an example.
" He that takes medicine and neglects diet wastes the skills of the physician."- Chinese Proverb
We may want to get tested for allergies/intollerances too. Quit eating or drinking anything that is toxic/harmful to your body. Educate yourself on what is not fibro friendly, also. Drink plenty of water yet reduce your caffeine intake.
8) Expectations:- Keep your expectations realistic, as well as simultaneously down to earth positive. Be calm assertive with those who have unrealistic expectations of you, ignore them, or make light of it if they are overly negative or over the top positive with you. Stop comparing yourself to others or putting pressure on yourself to be a certain person. Stop putting pressure on You to do a certain task or certain jobs, or setting yourself unrealistic goals for yourself.
"I am actually in poor health due to chronic fatigue immune dysfunction syndrome, and my ability to work is greatly diminished now, so I have to get better before I can start another project." - Laura Hillenbrand
"Tough times never last, but tough people do."- Dr. Robert Schuller
" Smile, breathe and go slowly."- Thich Nhat Hanh
"Hope is like a bird that senses the dawn and carefully starts to sing while it is still dark."- Anonymous.
"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the ways things turn out."- John Wooden
" Only as high as I reach can I grow
Only as far as I seek can I go
Only as deep as I look can I see
Only as much as I dream can I be."- Karen Raven
Article was my own idea/thoughts as well as my own words- take from this what you will like, yet hope it will resonate with some of you here- plus it is my aim that it will hopefully inspire fibromites to realise that our attitude is essential in not just managing fibro yet also can be vital medicine to us.
Warmest wishes to all fellow fibromites, Clarita ( batgirl with a dolphin smile :-) )