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Mar 29
2008
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My bf is infuriating me at the moment. We have been together for almost two years, and he is not making any progress in any direction as far as our future is concerned. I want to get marriedand have kids, but we still only see eachother on the weekends. It is so weak. It's like when I was a kid and I would go to my dad's on the weekend and would see my boyfriend. I have let him know how I feel, and it is like I am being totally selfish. I don't get it. I am going to be 32 years old in May and I have no kids. I am not getting any younger. What am I supposed to do, sit around and just wait until some random guy asks me to marry him? That is preposterous. There is no way I am not going to let him know what I want. If I don't how am I supposed to expect to get what I want? I am so annoyed right now I can no longer write about this at the moment.
Comments (4)
written by lonewolf, March 29, 2008
written by geekGirl, March 29, 2008
Thank you for your words of encouragement. After a phone call last night that went really bad, I spoke with my bf today. We talked about everything that we both want, and have agreed to set goals for our relationship. We are now talking about getting a place together, getting married, and having kids. I wish there was a prettier way that I could have approached this. I don't know. I am happy that we were able to tease through our heightened emotions, and get to a better place.
Angela
Angela
written by julzmommy, March 31, 2008
hi, reading your story made me think you really have a good heart and must love him to have stayed together for so long and having no commitment goals is a mistake alot of couples are making, in the first year your intensions need to be made know that you want children and you want to settle down, that way if the feelings are not mutual you are not wasting precious time as time is always agains us woman(bi clock and all)
you handled it great i think its great that you confronted it rather than just let it happen on its own sometimes some men need abit of a nudge in the right direction, or at least know the seriosness of what you want.
dont let this lie either you talked about getting a place so go look at some places together (bear in mind you want a child) and make sure there is enough room for a new addition. maybe talk about it or put in little remarks now and again but dont let it be forgotten you your foot in the door keep it there.
anyway good luck
you handled it great i think its great that you confronted it rather than just let it happen on its own sometimes some men need abit of a nudge in the right direction, or at least know the seriosness of what you want.
dont let this lie either you talked about getting a place so go look at some places together (bear in mind you want a child) and make sure there is enough room for a new addition. maybe talk about it or put in little remarks now and again but dont let it be forgotten you your foot in the door keep it there.
anyway good luck
written by geekGirl, March 31, 2008
Your advice is very helpful. It's true, and I will make sure we get a place together. He seemed very different this weekend. He seemed to take our relationship more seriously, and he was a lot nicer to be around. We talked more about having kids, and that was good. I seem to get really frustrated sometimes, and I have to learn how to handle my issues better. Thanks again for your advice.
Angela
Angela
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I have been seeing this woman that has 2 kids and has fibro and chronic fatigue and she is very protective of her kids she believes that is wise not for me to stay out of the kids lives which I agree but we talk about this and other things like what we both need in life and I'm lucky if I see her once a week because of our schedules but I have learned to love her very much because we comunicate so try talking with him