Today I feel better mentally, about my friends visit.  I saw the signs etc.  

I am now being told that since I know of her lazy ways etc, I should not have expected much.  I thinkwhat this person telling me not to expect much, is for my own good to establish boundaries.  This way I can keep selfish people at bay.  Therefore protecting myself mentally in a better way.  

 I think that was what the person did mean..LOL. The person in question is my counselor.  

 I did discuss with  her  (my friend) that I am not well and tending to her would not be an option.  This was discussed prior to her purchasing a plane ticket.  She reassured me at the time that she won't be expecting anything.  The problem here is that she has no memory.  Lets just say she polluted her brain too much in the past.  Now she claims memory loss/ignorance to stating such a thing.  

 So I set some boundaries for this friendship. It is the only way I can trust again.  

I don't know if I mentioned this but I had the instincts that she was taking stuff from my cupboards without my permission.  That was a big breach of trust. The kicker is I gave her the whole weekend after her visit to cop to it.  Nothing.  When I confronted her, she finally admitted to it.  

I have helped her so much, turned my back with trust to her and let her into my home.  I had others do this previously, while within my home.

So this was a big kick in the teeth.  As I did not expect this kind of  behaviour from her, nor should I have been suspect she would have acted this way.  All that on top of her being too lazy to even take her own dishes to the kitchen. 

Live and learn.  Back to the drawing board in terms of trust issues..lol.