Unapologetic Tears

You can't go back home and do it on your own or each go back to your parents and save up from home to start a family? You probably don't want to give the baby up right? Babies are a blessing but if your stressed and you two aren't financially secure, just saying babies are expensive. I really hope you figure things out and turn it around.

Get on the net..Go to Craigslist..You will find a job for him. Apply on line for him..tell him what you are doing. If he rejects work, then leave him. Your child will be better off without him..and you too. Don't be concerned for him, he is not providing you with the needs you require.
If you live with someone else, you can get assistance to help you through the right organizations, The most important thing to do, is to take care of you and the child you carry.
If you want to give up the baby, that choice is yours. Depending on how long your gestation is, if you want..you can find a loving family who would love to adopt..so many out there. And they will pay for your care and needs , the hospital bills..almost everything . Its the best choice, if you dont want to be pregnant, mostly then you wont live with any guilt that comes from family or friends..And THEN Divorce the Looser...I sure hope you think about this..Its your life too...not his..let him go..
If you kept the child, he couldnt even pay child support...what a shame...
Remember if your not too far long, you can get work to support yourself too. I worked until 3 weeks before the baby came into this world..and your Hormones may be making you feel bad on top of all else as well
I will pray for you...
Blessings..Always!!!

Sweet heart I could only imagine how terrible and trapped you feel...Do you have supportive family? Some one you can stay with...If you think he is not going to put on his big boy pants and support you guys get out now before the baby comes because it will be even worse if he doesn't change and then you're worrying about the baby too...There is no shame in asking for help...We all need it at one time or another....Please don't consider giving up baby because of money there is help out there...You may be poor for a time but you are educated and taking care of business you do not strike me as some one who would throw in the towel....Times will get hard if you do become a single mother but not as hard as it will be being in an unhappy relationship that only you are trying in...You will drawned trying to take care of everything including him...With out him it will be easier,because then you only worry about you and baby and not him too.... Your emotions are going NUTZ right now because you're scared ,pregnant getting no support from the fiance so you can relax in your pregnancy and your hormones are going bananas...When I was pregnant with my son I almost lost it like totally I needed meds and to see a shrink because his father was beinga tool and was not supportive...I do not regret having my son..He is the only thing that makes me genuinly happy now...It's a struggle but it's worth it...I hated being pregnant ,I wondered if I would love the child because I felt like maybe I didn't...When I heard him cry for the first time I knew I would never let him down and never love as much as I fell in love with him....It's undescribable how you feel when you first meet them....It's a whole new life sweetie I couch surfed for a few months with a new baby and felt like shit doing it but I did what I had to do to keep him in a good environment away from negativaty.......You have to have faith in your self baby girl. This feeling will pass depending on what chioces you make..Life really is what you make it ... If he does not do his part,leave......You shouldn't have to put up with this...If you have to go to a shelter they will help you get back on your feet...There's emergency housing for single mothers who end up in shleters which means a very small waiting list because they know you need a home...As much as you don't want to ask family for help ask some one you really trust can and will be there for you because it's not just for you any more,it's for baby too and they will understand...I pray you have good support some where if you do please use it...Good luck to you my dear and talk to a doctor about this stuff don't keep it all in ,it will help you make dicissions if you choose to leave....

One more thing ...If you are still no more then 12 weeks pregnant you do have the option of abortion if that is really what you would also consider...If you feel this is not a time in your life that you can give this child what they need do not feel guilty for doing so...It is your body , your future and a childs future....It is all your decission , you have no one to answer to but your self....Your life ,your business..No one else's business....good luck...Listen to your heart.....Do what's best for you and baby.... I will say I did have an abortion many years ago and I have no regrets...Mentally I was no where I wanted to be and I knew I would mess my kid up...I had my son at 28 and was in a place where I had been in councelling for years ,dbt for 14 months ,had meds ,had a few councellors and a LOT OF SUPPORT had it not been for that I don't know where I'de be now....No regrets k

oh oh oh aaaaaaaaaaand I thought I was going to be a bad mom too girl!PPPPPFFFFFFFFFF I ROCK AS A MOM!!!!!! Having BPD,Bipolar and anxiety I'm like a tiger when it comes to my boy and I know what he needs as a child,I have taken parenting groups such as Coping with toddler behaviour,the incredible years(AMAZING!!!) I recommend that one to EVERY ONE!!!!!! AMAZING gave me more confidence in my parenting I was always so easy on my boy because I was affraid of him having emotional issues like me !lol There is so much help out there....Just be hands on ...It will come naturally ....Don't be so hard on your self! It all seems so impossible right now but when it happens you'll know what to do...Kids are tough I won't lie ,they bring you to your highest of highs and your lowest of lows.Just ask for help when you need it.Always ask for help when you need it because you will need breaks......but it's worth it.....My son has braught me to TEARS!!!!!!! but it always passes and you move on to the next faze,habit, problem ,smile,laughter,crisis.oh my the list goes on .....but you get through it,you really do You have never had a child before so yeah you're scared I was totally scared of all the same things but I can't express to you enough how it changed when he got here,I turned into a mom on a mission.....Went from an alcoholic,drug user,cutter,a wreck ,lost soul to an awesome mom who just loves her son to pieces and would never do anything to effect her son in any way...no drinking ,no drugs,no bad friends, no boyfriends just one in four years and we've been together for 9 moths now and he's wonderful to my boy....This too shall pass...It's more so the Mental illness that needs to be kept in check,the doctor needs to be in the loop...if you don't trust doc try and get one you can talk to.....k im done

I strongly considered abortion with my first daughter. She's 18 years old now. If she had not been here, I would have never made it as far as I did. Your children will give you strength and hope and will pop up at the oddest moments to do everything for you, even at the age of 4 years. If it were not for my daughter, I would have never made it this far. They both gave me strength. Do not waste your time with a guy who wont't get a job. My ex refused. I worked 2 jobs, and lost a baby. When he finally hit my baby girl, I left him. Its sad that it took that to make me leave. But, remember, you may not believe it now, but you can do this!! Hold on to that child and get rid of the leech. If you do not with the child, I, too, would recommend finding a family to adopt the child.

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Hugz,

Zin