Is there a "right" sponsor? |
Jun 21 2012 |
I have had several sponsors since 2006. I'm kind of weird in that I have an ego that thinks to itself, "Well, I have had substance abuse training in school. And I have worked fora year for Beacon House as a substance abuse counselor."
Right now I have a sponsor who I see in passing only. I am homeless, out of money, and I need to leave 15 minutes early from my 5:30 p.m. group. I inform people that I need to go to the Victory Mission and leave early, but nobody offers to give me a ride down there. But then again, I do not ask, so I have no right to expect them to be mind-readers.
As for where I think a sponsor helps us the very most is in making an inventory (the 4th Step) and sharing that "with one other person." Now your choice of that person is an important one, because we all have our own faults that we do not like to share or talk about.
One therapist (an alcoholic, btw) told me that he saw me as a guy up in the tower with a bunch of arrows (or solutions) that I'd fire down to somebody who needed it. The problem, he said, is that nobody knows who the guy up there shooting the arrows is!
I like your quotes (5 minute give-up, has a plan and another way of being.
You are on a mixture of medications and I hope they work for you. However, I would definitely continue going to meetings and connecting with others on your wavelength. If you have a sponsor and she is not the right one, maybe you could talk to her about who might be better and interview them!
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