well, she called the other night.  I did not pick up, and I left a note on her car this morning on my way to work.  Looked like  it had not been driving....so she called tonight.  we talked a long time.  boy, my son is getting to be a real wack job if I believe all of what she has said, and honestly, I think I believe most of it.

another thing she said is that when they were weaning from the oxy, thru the "help" (tongue in cheek) of my ex husband, that Brandon would not just take it in pill form, but snorted some of it!!!  then, he had a prescription for valium, and snort that!!!  what the hell??   my son is a mess!!!!   also, she said that when my ex husband started to get mad at her (not doubt cause of our son bad mouthing her to my ex husb.), my son told her that his dad would not give him the weaning amount for her....tru????? i don't know....or was my son taking it himself????  I would not doubt that to be the case.

their break up was bad.  I see my son totally doing the same crap his father did to me...she said when they got together, he talked about his dad, and how he saw his dad treat me so awful, etc.....and here he is totally doing the same to her...doing bad behaviors to force her away, and now...he already is seeing another woman!!!!   just about exactly like his dad....sad sad sad....and leaving a dog, cat, behind....same as he did before....left a cat at my place that was his with another ex girlfriend he lived with, and left a dog at a place he rented a room at....is this kid sane?   I truly think he is so messed up and traumatized by watching his dad cheat around, now living with this woman and raising all her kids, that he is just doing the same behaviors that he himself hated!   I have read that kids do that lots of the time....a certain behavior in a parent that they totally hate, and they themselves start doing it.   anyway, my son went to her dad's and told the dad she had been doing these drugs, and other things....to "tattle" on her??? at any rate, turns out the BEST thing he could have done, cause her dad is NOT an enabler, and I think he will be one of the influences she needs.....since her mom is an EX addict, her mom told her when she told her mom she WANTED TO USE...it was getting HARd.....to have a fucking DRINK.   What kind of idiot mom does she have?   She knows her mom is like that, and I know from what she has said she loves her, but does not have respect for how she has handled her life, and she said she wishes she had a mom like me....poor girl...I really just feel so bad, and wish I could take away the pain...not just this last breakup with my son, who used her financially, etc, but past BAD relationships, and having to support her mom, and pay her mom's expenses and bills when she was about 17 or 18....working two jobs, while her mom was using.

This girl needs a break.  I told her I know she is gonna make it, and that SHE is the only one who can do this for herself.   I don't know her well, but I sure hope I am right and that she does not relapse.  I am very afraid she may.....but I think her dad knowing is such a silver lining that was in a black cloud.  I am sure my son did it to hurt her relationship with her dad, but he unknowingly did her a HUGH favor.

I maybe should not be talking to her cause of my son, but ya know....something told me not to ignore her when her number came thru....I had to think about it for about a day, but I felt I had to let her know I am NOT against her at all....she needs support and she told me before she sees me as a successful example of someone who has had tought things happen to them but gets thru and is a success.....I figure, heck....my boys don't want me in their lives....so I will go ahead and let her in....they cannot tell me who to have in my life...granted, they don't have to like it and see it as taking sides, but right now, I don't care.  They have all ganged up on me for unknown and unseen reasons along side my ex husband....go figure!!!!   I don't get it still...probably never ever will.....but I do know that there are tons of people I have met over the last 5 years that think I am pretty great, and a very normal person....so I hate to say this but I really do not think it is me....I think my kids just are being manipulated or are not wanting to see things the way that things really are.   They so badly want their dad in their life (never did stop them), but they do not seem to be able to distinguish that you can have both parents in your life, even if those parents are not in each others lives!    I am gonna pray on this later, when I can sleep.