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redwood I am hoping by journaling here, I can see some progress and recognize my relapses. Hoping I can also connect with others who have been or are going through what I am.

Reliving the nightmares

Jun 08 2010

We had dinner with another couple - my husband's oldest and dearest friends of almost 30 years.   I am the newcomer in the group since we have only been married 3 years, but feellike I have gotten to know these couple fairly well. 

So I was shocked when the husband looked down at me and said, "Nice breasts".  He followed up with some comment about me sticking them out and what was he supposed to say.  I know he had a lot to drink - probably more than I have seen him drink in the past.  

I felt like the vicitm again.  I didn't know what to say, so I didn't say anything.  I looked over at my husband (if this had been a stranger, the guy would be dead right now) and he didn't say anything.  That upset me that he let his friend talk to me that way.

I am having some kind of flashback to that feeling of being helpless, being sexually assulted, like it's my fault.  That night I woke up with a terrible migraine and I wonder if it was triggered by this.

I really don't ever want to see them again, but don't know how that would go.  My husband says he is going to talk to him about it, but somehow I don't think it will happen.  I feel let down by my husband and I feel violated by this creep. 


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written by peace4me, May 30, 2011
Sounds like some kind of man code...I don't know what kind of friend would say something like that to a friends wife.

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