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Nov 14
2007
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Over the last couple of weeks we had a few ‘incidents’ (in different support groups) in which people were offended by posts of other members and group leaders.
After reading those posts / threads I’ve come to the conclusion that ALL incidents could have been avoided if members were to respect each other and give their support group friends the benefit of the doubt.
We are all here because we have problems. Some have physical problems, others mental problems and an ‘elite group’ who shares both.
Those problems often make us ‘jumpy’ and see things only from our own perspective. But this is not the case. We are here as individuals but act as a group, and the unity of the group relies on the diversity of its members.
I haven’t met a single person in our community who’s intentions were to hurt others (aside from the occasional spammer which we delete and ban ;-) ). We are here to help ourselves and our friends. People helping people. Remember that!
It’s OK to have different opinions. It’s Ok to disagree with your friends and its even OK to get mad at something someone said, but please please please keep things in perspectives. We are here for each other.
Hope you all understand and forgive those who offended you.
Peace ;-)
roy
Comments (16)
written by HAMPTON7026, November 14, 2007
That is what we need to do, support others and take what posts is beneficial to us and ignore the ones that offend us. Everyone has their own opinion and should feel free to express it but take care in trying not to offends others in the process.
written by sweetheartsuzee, November 14, 2007
Couldn't have said it better myself, Hampton!
I promise to do my best to not offend or hurt anyone!!!
I promise to do my best to not offend or hurt anyone!!!
written by roy, November 15, 2007
let's hope everyone agrees ;-)
written by ponderingreality, November 26, 2007
, i wouldn't ever do it on purpose, i will be more careful.
good job masked man, on the new CF page! i can't wait to get started.
pondering
written by crying out, December 01, 2007
I also agree and like thoses of us to really think befor we post.
I dont know if I have offened anyone and if I have I am sooooo sorry.I also would like to take the time to reach out and say sorry for thoses who have been standing on the side lines with stones in there hands and that includes myself also.
CRYING OUT
I dont know if I have offened anyone and if I have I am sooooo sorry.I also would like to take the time to reach out and say sorry for thoses who have been standing on the side lines with stones in there hands and that includes myself also.
CRYING OUT
written by pillpoper, December 02, 2007
GEE, I'M SO DOWN AND CRYING RIGHT NOW THIS VERY MINUTE. I WONDERED WHERE EVERYONE WENT 
. ALL OF YOU JUST LEFT ME AS IF I WERE A DOG ON A HIWAY. I WENT AWAY TO HAWAII FOR A WEEK AND CAME BACK AND ALL OF MY FRIENDS WERE JUST GONE. IT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS AND I CRIED BIGTIME, BECAUSE I FELT THAT I MUST HAVE HURT SOMEONE AND NOT EVEN KNOW IT. I DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING B/C I THOUGHT EVERYONE WAS BUSY WITH CHRISTMAS. WHAT A SLAP IN THE FACE. I AM ONE OF THE COMMUNITY LEADERS, AND SOMEONE SHOULD HAVE TOLD ME THAT (EVERYONE) WAS LEAVING TO A DIFFERENT SIGHT. IV'E NEVER ONCE INTENDED TO HURT ANYONE. IT MUST HAVE BEEN ME B/C NO ONE SAID NOTHING TO ME, AND I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY. WHOEVER STARTED TELLING EVERYONE TO MOVE TO A DIFFERENT SIGHT: I WANT THEM TO SEND ME A PRIVATE MESSAGE AND LETS GET THIS THING CLEARED UP, BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR GOSSIP. NONE OF US NEED THAT. LIFE IS TOO SHORT AND WE ARE WAY TOO SICK. SHAME ON YOU. YOU KNOW I DON'T GET PAID FOR THIS, I HAVE THE SAME CONDITION YOU GUYS DO, YET YOU GUYS UP AND TAKE OFF. HOW DO I NOT TAKE THIS PERSONAL WHEN IT'S A VOLENTEER POSITION HERE AND I GUESS I HAVE FAILED EVEN THAT. YOU GUYS FIRED ME FROM A JOB THAT DOESN'T EVEN PAY. NOW I DON'T KNOW IF THE GROUP WILL EVER FULLY RECOVER FROM THIS OR NOT. YA KNOW THIS IS AWFUL. I'M GOING BACK TO MY OLD SUPPORT GROUP FOR AWHILE. MAYBE I'LL FIGURE OUT WHAT OR WHO CAUSE THIS SO I CAN HEAL. MY INTENT IS TO HELP OTHERS PERIOD. SOMEONE IN SERIOUS PAIN NEEDS ME RIGHT NOW AND THAT IS JUST WHAT I WILL DO. WISH YOU WELL, AND ENJOY ONE ANOTHER. PILLPOPPER
. ALL OF YOU JUST LEFT ME AS IF I WERE A DOG ON A HIWAY. I WENT AWAY TO HAWAII FOR A WEEK AND CAME BACK AND ALL OF MY FRIENDS WERE JUST GONE. IT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS AND I CRIED BIGTIME, BECAUSE I FELT THAT I MUST HAVE HURT SOMEONE AND NOT EVEN KNOW IT. I DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING B/C I THOUGHT EVERYONE WAS BUSY WITH CHRISTMAS. WHAT A SLAP IN THE FACE. I AM ONE OF THE COMMUNITY LEADERS, AND SOMEONE SHOULD HAVE TOLD ME THAT (EVERYONE) WAS LEAVING TO A DIFFERENT SIGHT. IV'E NEVER ONCE INTENDED TO HURT ANYONE. IT MUST HAVE BEEN ME B/C NO ONE SAID NOTHING TO ME, AND I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY. WHOEVER STARTED TELLING EVERYONE TO MOVE TO A DIFFERENT SIGHT: I WANT THEM TO SEND ME A PRIVATE MESSAGE AND LETS GET THIS THING CLEARED UP, BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR GOSSIP. NONE OF US NEED THAT. LIFE IS TOO SHORT AND WE ARE WAY TOO SICK. SHAME ON YOU. YOU KNOW I DON'T GET PAID FOR THIS, I HAVE THE SAME CONDITION YOU GUYS DO, YET YOU GUYS UP AND TAKE OFF. HOW DO I NOT TAKE THIS PERSONAL WHEN IT'S A VOLENTEER POSITION HERE AND I GUESS I HAVE FAILED EVEN THAT. YOU GUYS FIRED ME FROM A JOB THAT DOESN'T EVEN PAY. NOW I DON'T KNOW IF THE GROUP WILL EVER FULLY RECOVER FROM THIS OR NOT. YA KNOW THIS IS AWFUL. I'M GOING BACK TO MY OLD SUPPORT GROUP FOR AWHILE. MAYBE I'LL FIGURE OUT WHAT OR WHO CAUSE THIS SO I CAN HEAL. MY INTENT IS TO HELP OTHERS PERIOD. SOMEONE IN SERIOUS PAIN NEEDS ME RIGHT NOW AND THAT IS JUST WHAT I WILL DO. WISH YOU WELL, AND ENJOY ONE ANOTHER. PILLPOPPER written by pillpoper, December 02, 2007
AT THIS TIME I WOULD LIKE TO THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU AND ALON HAVE DONE HERE. YOU HAVE CREATED A WARM SAFE PLACE FOR PEOPLE WHO MANY TIMES HAVE NO ONE IN WHICH TO SHARE THEIR CONDITION, AND/OR EMOTIONS WITH. WE SHOULD BE THERE FOR ONE ANOTHER NO MATTER WHAT; BECAUSE, WE NEED THE HELP OR WE WOULDN'T BE HERE TO BEGIN WITH. I AM SOOO DEEPLY SORRY FOR WHAT HAS HAPPENED HERE. I WISH YOU COULD PM ME AND GIVE ME SOME INSIGHT AS TO WHO THIS PERSON IS, WHY? SO I CAN KEEP THIS FROM HAPPENING AGAIN. AND, IF IT WAS ME, BY ALL MEANS PLEASELET ME KNOW. SURE YOU VISIT OTHER GROUPS AND ALSO POST, BUT ALWAYS COME BACK TO YOUR OLD FRIENDS TOO. I WOULD LIKE TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF ALL OF THIS, BUT I FEEL THE NEED TO JUST MOVE ON. YOU KNOW, IF WE ARE NOT THERE FOR ONE ANOTHER, EVEN SUCIDE CAN HAPPEN. THAT'S WHY I TRY TO FOCUS ON THE PEOPLE, AND I TRY MY BEST TO WELCOME THEM IN AND BE AS HELPFUL AS I POSSIBLY CAN. WHAT A SAD DAY. DO YOU THINK THIS PARTICULARE GROUP WILL RECOVER? THANKS AGAIN ROY AND MANY HUGS, PILLPOPPER
written by ibrahimrizgar, December 04, 2007
i need to be of help to someone, i am from a different background, please contact me in case u needed someone to talk to.
written by Clover, December 21, 2007
Thank you. It is a reminder for me look outside my own box.
written by ponderingreality, December 25, 2007
i am not sure who, or what was said, and don't really care to know, none of my business...
but the masked one, said it best. and i really think we should realize the diversity of our family. families disagree, but don't attack.... (ok, my boy cousins do at EVERY thanksgiving...lol) but not here, we are all in this together, and if i am correct in saying so, we are here for us... FOR US, period. 
but the masked one
, said it best. and i really think we should realize the diversity of our family. families disagree, but don't attack.... (ok, my boy cousins do at EVERY thanksgiving...lol) but not here, we are all in this together, and if i am correct in saying so, we are here for us... FOR US, period. 
written by registereduser1946, January 01, 2008
as a group leader of my own group [ used to be 3 till i consolidated ] and monitor in another,i know how IMPORTANT it is to tread LIGHTLY.
good for you that you're on your toes and SWIFTLY banning spammers !
keep up the good work!
good for you that you're on your toes and SWIFTLY banning spammers !
keep up the good work!
written by psydchick, January 13, 2008
Hello to everyone, Dr Patty here. I am so glad that Roy decided to write on this topic. I have several online groups with different members and this happens a lot. Roy, what you said, I could have never said it better. In the past 2 years that I have been running groups, I have seen this happen over and over. I have had to put out many fires. We are all sick from different ailments and all here for similar reasons...support, knowledge and understanding that we may not get from our families, friends, etc. Let's all start the new year right and be tolerant to others, be respectful and mindful of others and before you hit the send button, think twice. In order To become or stay a cohesive group, we need to keep in mind that we come together for a similar reason, but stay a group for many other reasons. I needed to put my 2 cents in sorry.
written by marsha6751, January 28, 2008
Well i was looking at what groups are on this site i am already a member of bipolar support group but as i have 2 girls aged 8 and 4 i thought i would have a look.
Um i was reading all the above and its so sad,Obviously you all joined this group with your youngsters in mind and the trials we face as parents a few more idea's that we may have not thought of even.So why all the hostility and fighting? Do you guys really know how many lives are lost in impulsive thoughts and fears of non exceptance or having a different opinion? I have seen this first hand i have lost more friends than i care to mension in these cases.Please be kind to each other support is fantastic but friends are preciouse and the best friends in life you may never meet face to face but they will save u in one way or another.Good luck to everyone and i hope you all sort it out be kind to each other and yourself life is hard enough isnt it??
marsha6751
Um i was reading all the above and its so sad,Obviously you all joined this group with your youngsters in mind and the trials we face as parents a few more idea's that we may have not thought of even.So why all the hostility and fighting? Do you guys really know how many lives are lost in impulsive thoughts and fears of non exceptance or having a different opinion? I have seen this first hand i have lost more friends than i care to mension in these cases.Please be kind to each other support is fantastic but friends are preciouse and the best friends in life you may never meet face to face but they will save u in one way or another.Good luck to everyone and i hope you all sort it out be kind to each other and yourself life is hard enough isnt it??
marsha6751
written by taz, January 31, 2008
Every one needs to try to take one day at a time and reach out for the help that he/she needs and hopefully there is a hand reaching back.
May all of you have a wonderful day
taz
May all of you have a wonderful day
taz
written by olepawpaw, March 19, 2008
I hope that i dont offend anyone here,because we are all here for a reason,and as for me im here for support and friends who has been where i am or knew someone who has been.I want to be friends with everyone,you can never have enough friends...I will respond to e-mails also just drop a message on my page and let me know.Thank you all .....ole pawpaw
written by sky175, April 13, 2008
Thank You 
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