I miss...

Wow, i relate. It has taken years of marriage for me to learn to accept this more. Years of comparing to my last exciting, volatile, passionate relationship made us both miserable. I have come to grips that i am married to a real guy's guy, not the most emotional, talkative, would be just fine doing all his guy things, working, and talking about what we have to talk about and just have sex. Men! He loves me, but it's like this is just how he is. Of course when we were dating it was more passionate and we had long talks over drinks and..but u know, just like you we have two young children and that has a lot to do with it! The ex's we are romantacizing over or what happened there did not have kids with us. it changes things, But there is hope, i feel like since i started accepting him more how he is, and i have become less needy, cause i just know that is how it is, and i try to make things happen, and i have to schedule us dates sometimes, and it's like i dont' get all the attention i want, but i think about i really want a lot of the other qualities he has or brings to the table. i am rambling, there is no good answer, but we have been married almost 9 years and in some ways it gets better and better believe it or not, like you go through phases, just when you think you become more sexual, or have some talks that let you both know what the other one needs from the other one. maybe ask him what he would like you to work on( other than sexual) that would make him feel special or loved by you and then visa versa. Good luck, it is such a journey. valleys and mountaintops C