There's gotta be some way for me to better deal with her depression. I've gotta watch myself or I'll take things personally and say something I'll regret later. So far I've done good I on't let her snappy replies get to me. We want to ride a rally next month and a friend is gonna give me a bike to ride all I have to do is go pick it up. So  call and ask if she wants to ride out early and get it with me. Now I get this crabby reply about having things to do in the morning. Fine so I'll go alone and pick her up later that day and an hour out of my way. I know she is indecisive especailly now but damn yes or no....There are times that we wont see eachother during depressive episodes so neither feelings get hurt. Maybe this is one of those weekends I gotta get the bike ready and have a month to do it. Maybe I'll stay with friends for the weekend and let her be. The kids will be around so she should be o.k.  When I look into her eyes I see emptyness darkness sadness and irritability. I wished I could help but know there's nothing to be done but wait it out. I'll talk to her later and see what she wants to do but I'll most likely have to make that decision for her. I guess I have alittle time to figure out how to talk to her without upsetting her. It's the only way to keep things in check. She's been spiraling for 3 weeks and hopefully we see an end soon she's been more communicative in the past 2 days than the past 3 weeks so maybe......At least she'll call when she gets ready for bed and I'm getting text messages through out the day again. Anyway I gotta get ready for tomorrow I've got an 8 hour round trip to get the bike and another 2 if she wants to come to our friends with me. It is what it is right now tomorrow is another day we'll see then..............................TXB