it is easy for someone to say "i am sorry for you", and i do feels sorry for you. but i will not deny that i really don't know what it's like to lose someone close to me. i've lost some not very close friends and aquaintances, but never someone i love with my whole heart. i do worry about it a lot though, and i could only imagine how horrible it feels. the pain is not easy, and i'm sure if it was the other way around, people would feel pain from losing you as well. unfortunately it is a natural phase everyone must experience at some time. but in my personal opinion, even though it hurts you, it is just a physical and emotional sign of how much you loved someone. i don't know if you are religeous, but i truly believe whomever you have lost is in a better place, and wouldn't want you to feel the pain that you do. think about that when you are down and that they would want you to be happy. i hope that helps you, and i hope the pain eases for you soon. pain will fade, but love is never forgotten, take joy in that.

It is very painful, I know. I am nearing the 1 yr anniversary and it feels like yesterday again. I have been to a few psychic mediums, 2 very reputable ones. One trained by John Edward, by the name of Jonathan Louis. He was excellent. He gave me some validation and comfort I have longed for nearly a year. Comfort in that what he said, could only mean my mom is still around or the medium has seen my home and past which is impossible.

Everyone deals with loss in their own way. Most importantly, right now you should take really good care of yourself (physically and spiritually). The loss of a loved one can trigger self-defeating behaviors (I know from personal experience), and may push you into depression. About the psychic - that's cool if that's what you believe in. It may help you temporarily feel better about your loss. I hope you don't mind me saying this, but perhaps turning to God would be a better choice. Don't get me wrong, talking to someone or a psychic will probably make you feel better, but as a child of God you already have someone to talk to who knows your pain inside and out and has direct communication with your loved one. Nothing soothes your soul like the peace of God. That being said, I've actually "had it out" with God after two horrendous losses in my life. It's easier to believe in something that you can see, touch and feel. Believe me, I have been down this path and ironically, losing a loved one makes you very aware that there is "another side". You don't have to enlist the help of a psychic to tap into that other world. I'm not saying psychics are bad, just that there is another possibility. Go straight to the source is what I'm trying to say. Your heart will eventually be filled with peace and you can be with your lost loved one with the speed of your thoughts. If you go to a medium, then make sure they're not trying to scam you. You will know instinctively if they're not what they seem to be. In the meantime, talk to others that have been through what you're going through. Feel your emotions and be gentle with yourself. Pray to your higher power and talk to your loved one. They will always be in your heart, so in a way, he or she lives on through your love. Good luck with everything. I hope you find a great job and that you live a blessed life.