reality is the women who control our lives (by our husbads)THEIR MOTHER  can make it fantastic or torture... how can you tell your husband you hate his mother,, well i have many times, but i dontwish to stop him seeing her, he gets very upset that she is so rude and nasty to me, she didnt end up staying too liong anyway as my hubby told her we werent interested in any of her "news" and she ended up leaving after only about 45 minutes... thanks hun!!! she is a nasty peice of work, she nearly ruined our wedding and since that she has ridiculed me and my family, she assaulted my daughter while she was holding our 6 month old baby, and then she tried getting the power and telephone disconnected, by calling the company and pretending to be me, she changed the address on my husband's car insurance and bank, by stealing our mail, filling in the section to change address and she basically just makes me mad on sight... she is constantly picking and starting fights, she makes me so cranky... i dont think i ever HATED anyone before but aftr years of putting up with her shit i am so learning to not let her beat me, i locked myself in the study and got on my computer and started doing things to help other people, that always makes me feel good, and worhty, so i didnt even know she was gone, i also put the music on really loud so i couldnt hear them talking so i have no idea what was said and i think that best... things she says really eat away at me,, it is almost as if she has gone away and thought about it for  aweek all the nasty things she can say but say it so sweetly so i must have misunderstood... only i talk to hubby about it and always have, he has learnt to actually listen to what she says and then understand why i get so upset when she visits..

i think i done the right thing... i ma not going to isolate hubby from his mum, already bad enough that i have caused a rift in the family, by not liking his sister and putting up with her crap, and putdowns and public humiliation, but i do stand up for myself, i have nothing to be ashaned of... if they dont like me fine, but dont stand around putting us down in front of everyone, i wont put up with that shit... i'd rather not be there then do that. so i said to my husband that he can go alone to his family's functions, i refuse to go anymore, he choosez to not go so that is that......

thanks for sharing..