:(well i have to get home care in to do some of the house work now. i had a phone interveiw the other day and im getting 1 and 1/2 hours a fortnight and the person who comes will change the sheets on all of the beds and clean the bathroom and the 2 toilets and mop the floor in the kithen and vacume the house upstairs and down i do hope that it is possible to get all that done in the time allocated, if we need more time that can be worked out later but im sure it will sort itself out and i really hope that it helps because i have to pay for that and  my husband has not wanted the in home help, i think he is paranoid myself but i just think it will be easier because then i dont have to ask him or the kids to do those jobs all the time and i just cant do it anymore so im hoping it will save unneeded arguments. my husband is understanding most of the time, i honestly feel my hubby gets sick of me (especially when im nagging about jobs, like changing the sheets, he's like" well they dont look dirty so they are all right", i like them changed regularly, i cant do it so someone else has too.) i know he loves me and  he still puts up with me, so i guess im lucky. i wish i could go back to work but my hubby is so against it because that will only cause me to be in more pain and after childcare we wouldnt be any better off any way so that makes things easier too, i have the 3 younger  girls in day care on tuesday now and  that is costing $75 for one day so that really sucks but it really helps me to just have 1 day a week to myself and i am not making any appointments for tuesday any more either so it is just  a rest day now. i really am looking forward to tuesday if for no other reason than i can do nothing all day, just rest and hopefully feel better for it.