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Inadequate

Riding the Rollercoaster

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Jun 14 2011

I learned about a week ago that my husband and his mother have been making plans to move her from Laredo to Austin....to live with US! WTF? Laredo is not a veryr nice place to live. So much crime anddrug cartel stuff. I don't blame them for that. His mom lives there with his little sister (she is 20) and her 3 yr old daughter. The thing is that it isn't just his mom that is coming but his sister and her daughter too. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment now and there are 5 of us. The 3 teenagers were lucky enough that one of the bedrooms was huge so that they all fit in there. What the hell am I going to do with a 3 yr old racing around here? I am NOT ready for this and apparently it is going down next weekend. WTF????? I was asked, finally, last night if it were okay. What the hell is he asking me for? He and she already have made plans here and it is going down. My opinion, even though it is my apartment, doesn't mean squat.

Mind you, the people in my house trigger me so bad right now as it is. I currently have a friend of my oldest daughter's staying with us. She isn't here much but still. .She doesn't stress me out. Now, I have to add 3 MORE to my livingroom? I don't know why they even bothered asking me because they had already made up their minds what they were going to do. I think it is ridiculous considering my husband isn't even on my lease. I am not to have more that 5 people living in this apartment. That is going to make 8. I worry that I will get caught and get kicked out. That can NOT happen.

What the hell was he thinking? I get so tired of plans being made and me not being consulted. This is a major one too. How am I going to keep my sanity with this many people in my house?

I am running out of places to hide. Oh, his mother is not the easiest to get along with either. Full blood mexican woman. Yikes! :(

Needless to say, I am PISSED!

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written by Dit, June 14, 2011

I'm so sorry all this is happening, i sure hope a miracle happens and this does not happen, you have rights too, your rights have been violated, you may have to take a stand here...as you say you are not allowed any more than 5 living there, thats grounds right there. I wish you all the best, my heart goes out to you...much (((Hugs)))

written by TexasYankee, June 14, 2011

They weren't suppose to come up until September. The hard part is that his sister got beaten to a pulp so that is the biggest push in all of this. How the hell can I say no when they obviously need to get out of there so that that doesn't happen again. We are suppose to find a drug rehab for her. If I knew how temporary this all is I don't think I would have so much of an issue but something tells me this isn't going to be a fast transition.

You are right, I have rights and I have made it quite clear that we could be booted out because of too many people. It fell on deaf ears.

written by LIBBYZ, June 14, 2011

Well, that situation sound like it will end in disaster. So the intent is to help the sister, but to do that why must they live with your family? smilies/angry.gif

Frankly, they will bring their problems with them and you will have more than just agor triggers to deal with. She can find drugs and bad people in your town too. Sorry to be negative, but I tried to help relatives similarly and it was a nightmare. smilies/cry.gif

I'll pray for you.

written by Fidgetgirl, June 14, 2011

OMG Angie!!! Where are your boundaries???? How can they just walk all over you like that??? Sweetie I live in a one bedroom shack less than 900 sqft and my husband was going to let his youngest sister and her bratty 10 yr old stay here till they could find a place!!! NOT gonna happen in a million yrs!! I learned my lesson when my stepson lived here. His sister doesn't even have a job nor is she looking either!!! She knew yrs ago she had to get out but she keeps walking around with her hand out!!! I cut her off from coming here every night just when I'm getting ready to eat dinner and stopped cooking till she got the mess!!!
He two oldest son's in their 20's also had the nerve to ask us if they could camp out in out living room!!!!I said NO WAY JOSE before they even finished the sentence!!!
Angie I'll pray for things to change in your favor however I think my foot would be up hubbies butt for not telling you till the last min!!! What the hell is he thinking???? A 3yr old????OMG if the mother is is drug addict who do you think will be taking care of that child????? Girl You need to set some boundaries and quick too before your 6 ft under!!! smilies/shocked.gif

written by SillyOMe, June 14, 2011

I have to agree Angela. This would be a disaster for all of you. Maybe things will change before that time and it won't happen. It really CAN'T happen. Relax, plans do change. Try to suggest other alternative actions they can take.

written by ClearBlueSky, June 15, 2011

Oh Angela, I do agree with you also. This is so not right. I live with one other person, and I find that triggering. I can't imagine living in that small of a place with that many people. And to not even ask you first? I just don't feel like the way that you were treated is right at all. I hope that this does NOT happen at all, ever. It doesn't sound like a good situation at all for you or your family.

written by TexasYankee, June 16, 2011

I think I may need it. LOL!

I am babysitting a 3yr old little boy tonight. Maybe a good test run before the other one gets here. Help me learn what needs to be put up and childproof my house. Man, I thought I was past all that. I will explain quite clearly that if I am in my bedroom, do NOT bother me. I will need the solace.

written by Jeffrey, June 20, 2011

people need to go.

written by vault2007, July 15, 2011

You atill have options, dear (though at first they will add more stress to your life). First, you can call up these new unwelcome guests and tell them NO- they CANNOT COME- you DO NOT NEED TO GIVE A REASON! But if they insist, you DO have one: "I've spoken with my landlord, and the landlord will not allow anyone to stay over more than a day or two. We will be evicted. We need to come up with another solution for you guys to move near us." Perhaps you all could set up a compromise, like: going 4 ways to pay for a motel nearby for them to lodge, or perhaps renting rooms elsewhere-- this is BAD. Stop this nightmare in its tracks b4 it gets any worse!