I'm getting better, but I still think about this 27 yr old gigilo too much.  What did I expeat last year/ He started flirting with me, knowing I'm a 45 yr old married woman with 4 kids.   One of my girlfriends asked me was he going to help pay may mortgage. I laughed, but it was a legitimate question...what could he possibly do for me? Financially, not a thing. I would have been the one, probably paying for meals and evenings out....I guess i felt i needed him to feel better about myself. heck, if I could pull in an attractive, educated young man at my age, that must mean that I'm not ugly after all!!  I know it makes no sense, but i keep thinking about it. Wondering what would have happened if we kissed...probably the end of my marriage, or near end. If I'm going this 'ga-ga" over a guy that hasn't done anymore than hug me a few times. i would have really lost it if I kissed him...I keep wondering what to say if I see him around campus? I haven't seen him in a yr, but a friend talked to him recently and told me that Mr. Gigilo wants me to have his new email address. Why should I even contact him?? My email address and phone number have not changed--he can get in touch with ME if he so chooses.  Gotta stop chasing folks--male or female....if he wants to be my frined, he'll have to make a move. But even then, I must be careful and set limits. He's no good--can't let him get too close to me ever again.  It's bad enough I dream about him 1-2 times a week......