I have to say, I think if given the choice between being hurt by a "friend" or hurting from my conditions I would have to say I could much better stand and handle the hurt of my conditionsand all the pain they cause me.  Being hurt by a "friend" is just something that keeps slapping at you, and always creeps out even when you try to hide it in the back part of your mind, it finds its way out to the front.  I had something good happen to me, I won something on another board, and in one breath the person congratulated me, and in the same sentence told me how much they wanted what I won, and because of me wanting it, they had no shot at it, etc. and made me feel so worthless about it. 

Too bad all people can't understand that the tongue and writing are double edged swords, you can butter bread with them, or you can cut someone deep.