Drowning

I am sorry he is mistreating you like this. You have the right to be happy and not be surrounded by someone who is always making you feel like you are doing "less than" he or she wants. I almost called what he is doing abusive, but I urge you to talk to your therapist about this. This is NOT right, what he is doing.

It sounds like you two aren't communicating well enough. If it was up to his standards, then he wouldn't be mad at you all of the time. He shouldn't make you feel like you don't do enough. You are doing the best you can do right now and if he can't understand or it's not good enough, he should be able to talk about it with you. It sounds like you would benefit from couples counseling if you could do that. I think it would really open up the communication lines. Sounds like he is grumpy all the time. Talk to your therapist about this and see what she says about it and go from there. You should not be made to feel this way.

sad that it is happening like this
I hope things get better soon

if i were in your shoes id simply say if you dont like it show me how you think it should be done that way the onus is on him to set the standards, im sure he couldnt better your house work. if i open the curtains im growld at by my wife for not doing it right till i said to her one day 'if you dont like the way i do it do it yourself' shes never complained since?????

Yeah I know how that feels. I went thru it with husband. I never did things right or wasn't doing enough. When I was really trying. Now we are separted. But supports me more now then when we were together . Go figure