Dealing with my wife's manic.

Wow!  All I can think is wow.  I have been going back and forth on wondering if my ex wife is a victim of her bipolar and everything can be explained with her mania.  or if there wassomething even deeper going on such as Borderline Personality Disorder.  

Her sister told me once a month or so ago that she thought that my ex wife had engineered our meeting.  That it was not the random chance meeting that I thought it was.  She had dated a friend of mine from college, and we were both his friends on facebook.   I got a strange garbled message one day from the woman I did not know, and her profile  picture was of her in costume at a Convention I go to every year.  She claimed her 5 yo daughter must have accidentally sent me the message since we did not know each other, and a few days later, she said she figured out that our mutual friend was my friend from college and her daughter must have tried to send him a message and accidentally got into his friends list and sent me the message instead.  This all just happened to "happen" the one week I was in Georgia between my job in California and going to my new job in Florida.  If he message had happened one week earlier or later, it would not have mattered.  Her sister and her do not get along, so I was not sure if her sister was blowing steam or not.  We had both always talked about the one in a million meeting.  That it must have been a sign from above.

Well, I sent my friend a message about a week ago just asking if he had ever gotten other messages from her youngest daughter.  I wanted to know if it was a mistake that could have happened or not.  He finally responded tonight that he had met her kids only once for about a min.  That they had never tried to send him any messages on facebook.  

He also said that the two of them had talked about me, and the convention and  how much I loved going there every year.  So she knew who I was, and what I liked.  She cyberstalked me, then engineered our meeting, adding a profile picture that she knew would insure that I wrote her back.  I was manipulated from the beginning.  She engineered our meeting, her personality, everything.  

It is scary.  Though in a strange way. I guess it helps me move on a little.  I can stop worrying that she is a victim of her mania.  I think she likes the mania and uses it to "reset" things.  

wow.  I mean wow.