I read your note today and I want you to know I understand where you're at. I went through a terrible time when I finally realized I wasn't able to work. I got fired from jobs because I was unable to work or I quit jobs because my nerves were so bad I couldn't go in. It is hard to accept the fact that you are disabled. I go through times when I question my self worth because I'm not able to bring home a paycheck. I'm still trying to get ssi but I know now thats my only option. Good luck in what ever path you take. Just want you to know you can send me a message anytime and I will help you if I can. I will start praying for you today.

Beccaboo, first I wanted to give you a hug and tell you I care. I'm in the Permanently Disabled Group, but it doesn't mean I don't care.

I remember you saying in another post that your doctors and you had come to the decision that you had to quit work and even your co-workers knew it was best. You had tried so hard and given it your best, but it had reached the point where you had a disability that got in the way of you trying to work. My suggestion is I hope that you will sit down with your husband and review all this with your husband. Your bipoloar does play a role in the decision and if your doctors wanted you out of work just a little while ago, I'm so concerned that you may place too much pressure on yourself to return to work so your husband can get this job. Another suggestion is that your husband and you might want to revisit your doctors to discuss this with them so your husband fully understands your health could be at stake or the doctors could make counter-suggestions to allow you to work and accomplish him taking the job. Many hugs and good luck.

and wanted to respond to you. My husband and I have had terrible financial problems this past year. I was laid off twice, out of work for six months, then his business started slowing down. We ended up having to sell his commercial property for the amount of the mortgage a month ago, an economic disaster as far as I was concerned, because it was to be our retirement... Long story short, I can't tell you how much better we feel with some of the financial pressure off. Yes, we are both still sad (he's BP, and I'm a norm), but downsizing seemed our best and only option and now that it's done, we're both feeling relief. So I guess what I want you to know is that it's not the worst thing in the world. I never wanted to nor tried to keep up with the Jones, don't even know who they are. All I can tell you is that God will make a way for us and for you.

I read your post and I empathize with you. Sometimes downsizing is the best thing; however, we put too much emphasis on the here and now...keeping up with others who have more. Downsizing, filing Ch 13, so your husband can get the better job, could be a turning point in your lives. Perhaps God is giving you a way to make it work. This better job could bring about a better life, down the road and maybe you'll be able to hold down a part-time job in the future.

My ex is a teacher, and he took time off when he was in the hospital a few months back. He still had his job, when he returned after a month, so all was well.

Don't put so much pressure on yourself, God will always make a way. WE just have to get out of our own way for his miracles to happen.

Dawnette