I got this from an entry on the /www.dpselfhelp.com site. I read this and thought WOW. OK here is the cure. ***Caution*** lots of strong language. I didn't write it and didn't want to alter it.
The Holy Grail of Curing DP/DR:
I've analyzed and experienced this fucking life consuming blackhole
disorder for a longtime since I got it and have found the 10 most
important steps in recovery:
2) Letting go
4) Tuning focus back on external world(reality) and interact with it
6) Facing your fears&burried surrows
7) Eating right
9) Changing your thinking pattern
10) Re-enter reality & Never looking back
Seems so easy and simple, in a sense it is and on the other hand it's
not, it's hard work.
However it IS infact THE only cure that ANYONE with DPDR has used to
recover. there will never be a magic pill, so take my word for it and
cure yourself by the end of this year and live life happily ever after
This one is probably the hardest, one thing is acknowleding and being
aware your suffering from DP/DR.
I think anyone who read this book with DP/DR acknowledges the fact they
are fuckedup and got DP/DR.
The thing we however don't do is ACCEPT IT.
Infact we refuse it and fight it with all our energy and time.
Accepting seems like defeat like, damn, I'm fucked. But that's not the
Accepting means stop fighting it with all ur power, it's the first step
in recovery (seems clich�) but it's actually true.
Before you can ACCEPT (again not acknowledge, but ACCEPT the fact that
ur DP/DR'ed) you won't recover.
It's also the first step of letting go.
Accepting is not a easy process but it's a quick one. Just say it out
loud a few times and really MEAN it:
"I accept I got DPDR, and I know I'm not insane, this is a temporary
illness and I accept that I got it"
It wants you to give it attention but you got to accept it's pressence
and don't give a fuck.
It's like the bully who picks on other kids in school, if they fight
him/pay him attention, he'll keep coming back. If they ignore him, it
won't have the same effect and the bully will leave.
It's kind of the same with Pure O thoughts and DPDR, so accept it and
you'll soon be ready to let go of it
This is the next step in the process of recovery, managing to actually
Letting go of the questioning, philosophing, worrying, thinking and
wondering "WHAT IF" "COULD IT BE?" "BUT?" etc.
Letting go is different from ignoring, ignoring is forcing yourself not
to pay attention which actually means your paying it attention.
Letting go means really letting something go without picking it up 10
minutes later again. I'm guilty of this.
The 3 persons I've interacted most with from dpselfhelp is curedone,
ihavemessedupdreams & Fightingdepression, they can testify I had a
enourmous amount of trouble with this "letting go" thing.
I couldn't, and I think I've read all the information on every topic
there is on the internet, seriously.
Google is no longer my friend, but my enemy.
Letting go is ofcourse a process, it's not something you manage to do
while you read these lines just by saying "OK I LET GO OF THIS
IRRATIONAL FEARS" and then your cured. It's a process.
You must adopt a I JUST DONT GIVE A FUCK attitude to these thoughts and
lable them as "my mind sending me false information again" and let them
In the beginning this is hard but after awhile it becomes easier.
it's the same in treating OCD and it's actually altering the thinking
pattern in your mind thus also changing the chemical balance in your
brain. This might sound like mind over matter, but it's not mind is
matter in you brain and this have been scientifically verifyed and is
realy ancient knowledge of buddhists.
Letting go leads to the next topic, distraction, which is essential in
letting go, if you just sit around doing nothing, letting go is next to
impossible. It's like trying to quit crack addiction while selling it by
It's the most fundamental way of curing Panic disorder, depression, OCD
Distracting is hard, ecspecially when your so not connected with your
Distraction simply means shifting your focus from DPDR to ANYTHING, I
don't care if it's singing
Britney Spears HIT ME BABY ONE MORE TIME or jumping in the shower with
ice cold water on.
Distraction is the key to letting go which is the key to recovery so
distraction is a key to the door of both your soul(self) & reality
for DP/DR victims
Everytime you find yourself ruminating over some stupid ass
philosophical questions GET UP, run around your house 5 times and do 20
Throw a bucket of icecold water over your head and clean your room.
Put on a song and sing to it, watch a exciting movie(not a boring one
which will lead your mind to think and not follow the movie)
Something / Anything which involves taking the focus from inward
internal conflict of mind to the outward external REALity.
This would be the great time to start learning new things, get new
I can not stress enough how important consistant 24/7 distraction from
DPDR is to recover.
It's either that or your doomed, it's simple as that, honestly put.
Tuning focus back on the external world/reality and interact with it
Now that your letting go of irrational thoughts, distract yourself from
DPDR it's time to enter reality and interact with it again. No more
isolation, I bet most of you spend 6+ hours aday on the computer with
focus on the screen then another 2 hours on the TV screen and the rest
How do I guess so right? because I've done it for the past year too.
Isolation is the worst thing, it's proven it leads to solipsism syndrome
and derealization states.
NASA is experiencing this and studying ways to defeat it in space travel
where astronauts surroundings are very little unchanging and they live
in COMPLETELY controlled environment for safety.
Their currently finding ways to combat this by having plants which grow
without human intervention, animals and random number generators etc.
In your home your in a controlled unchanging environment, which means no
surprises, no changes, no challenges & therefore no feeling of
It's when your fantasy/hopes/expectations are proven wrong by reality
that you learn to deal and handle reality.
So how do we enter the scary "unknown" without breaking down and killing
ourself or going insane?
First we watch this movie(ya'll spiritualist will love this one, but for
atheists fuck the "God" part and just watch the relaxing and beautiful
nature and the encouraging messages)
Now realize this is our fear, the beautiful nature and world there is
out there for us to explore and experience.
You live rougly if your lucky 75 years. That means most of us 30-50%+ of
that time is already up.
Another fact is that we sleep like 1/3 of our life so this means
basically we cannot waste it on this stupid retarded disorder and sit
alone in a room killing ourselves emotionally, mentally and personally.
I suggest starting slow, going outside, if your not in a big city,
taking walks in nature will be great grounding experiences, hearing the
birds sing, watching rivers floath, the trees swinging in the wind,
feeling the fresh air and seeing the biiig biiig world out there which
you got absolutely NO control over and is completely real and natural
independant of your mind. (this is a fact I trust in after studying the
philosopher Ayn Rand)
I know buddhists might disagree, but seriously, the objective world is
primary, your consciousness is secondary and a direct result of
evolution and natural selection.
It's mother earth, and we are it's children.
Feel the happiness of belonging, theres tons of smells/tastes outside
too which will bring back memories and sense of self.
Anyway, staying in the safezone = controlled environment = increased
belief in your stupid delusional thoughts(doesn't make them real,nothing
ever will, but it'll appear more real, thus make you feel more unreal).
So get out, you need the earthquake of facing the scary uncontrolable
REAL world to shake you back to reality.
Try not only observing it passively, instead feel the leafs, throw some
rocks in the river, walk and feel the ground beneath you, see the
changes in the sky, the surroundings etc.
Also I know humans seem strange to you at the moment, faces appear
dead/cartoonish if your severily DR'ed and it seems like people got no
mind, there's no persona in them it seems, but look at yourself in the
mirror u cannot see ur own mind either.
Their minds DO exist and you'll be able to understand it again once ur
back in reality and fully conscious and awake.
Start out small, it's great if you got animals, ecspecially cats as they
are so self centered and dont give a fuck about you, you can see they
got their own mind and do as they please and their cute as hell too.
I've found it easier to connect with animals in DP/DR moments, their so
full of life and different and unpredictable from us.
Also try to move around to new places, something unpredictable and new
is the greatest way of killing of DP/DR.
It's scary so you don't dare to do it, but it's the only goal your
seeking, ironic isn't it?
DO IT seriously.
After you manage to get out of your house and trust reality again and
start to see it's realness and randomness and you got no control over
it, socializing is the next step and the most important of them all.
You will NEVER EVER realize that people exist by studying evolution,
watching experiments and brainscans, you will know it intellectually but
not EXPERIENCE AND KNOW IT in reality.
To do so you must socialize, with old friends and new people.
For some strange reason the more familiar the people are in reality more
unfamiliar people look when your in the DPDR'ed state of mind.
I guess it got to do with the defense mechanism in your brain shutting
off the self and "protecting you", but anyway, this is the most crucial
and important step in the world for DPDR'ers, realize there really are
others out there.
Your not alone, and this will bring back reality to you in so many ways,
and is the greatest distractor of them all.
Socializing will also bring back common sense to you too, slowly but
surely this will help you greatly.
Don't talk to them about your DPDR, if they ask whats up just tell them
your a little depressed stressed and exhausted, don't go into details
about it, when your with others try not to focus on it at all, try to
focus on the present and REALITY not your deluded fearful fantasies.
Antisocial behavior and isolation while DPDR'ed is like playing russian
roulette with all chambers of the gun loaded. It's straightup suicide.
Facing your fears and burried surrows:
The best analogy for this is : your stuck in a endless tunnel you've
brought yourself into, every fear that has attacked ur mind that you
have tried to fought and ignore has put you deeper into this tunnel. And
you see no light at the end, and when you think you do it's a train.
Well ok, lets face that train(fear) then, let it kill you, you must die a
few times in this process.
After awhile the train drags your corpse out of the tunnel and you'll
rise from the ashes like a pheonix and the fears will no longer affect
you and you'll be able to conquer and finally realize and see how
irrational and nonexistant the things you feared actually is.
If you fear dying it doesn't mean go to the bathroom and slit your wrist
so you can "FACE DEATH".
It simply means say "I dont care if I die", but you got to MEAN it, not
just say it.
Death is real and its invetiable, but it's not in the present so don't
worry about it.
The other existential philosophical nonesense don't even exist, so
facing those is different, here you must either PRETEND their true for
awhile until your mind realize it was wrong and you can finally let go
or skip that and go straight to the "let go part"...
Let the thoughts occupy the mind, don't pay them attention, acknowledge
them, don't agree or disagree, just let them be, starve them to death,
everytime you attack them or try to resolve 'em you give 'em a big
cheeseburger with fries on your expens(this being your life) so fuck
that scavanger and let it die out from starvation.
Survival of the fittest. =P
If you've as me gone through traumatic events such as loss of loved ones
or other similarly traumatic experiences facing it is a great
therapeutic way of recovering.
The last time I felt reality and emotions was encountering my deep
burried sorrow of my dad's tragic death which occured right before DPDR
and was a big contributer to triggering it I suspect.
Facing it was like unleashing the emotions out of the cage and it was
overwhelming but brought me back into my body and reality in a split
second, even if it just lasted a few seconds this was the first "hope"
for me in months.
A spark of light in the endless maze of dark empty tunnels of DP/DR.
Crying without emotion gives no effect, you need to bring up the
emotional cause and unleash it.
Remember your brain has shut this down to protect you from the
overwhelming emotions but it doesn't realize the danger is over and you
can let it go so you have to remind it and poke on it until it do.
It'll be a hard but crucial process in your road to recovery.
While studying anxiety disorders and ecspecially Pure O I found that
what we eat contribute a whole lot to our situation.
Our brains is basically billions and billions of neurons which are
connected through myelin sheets, same as our nervous system is and
anxiety / ocd / slightly schizophrenic / tourette syndrome etc. people
got damaged and torn up myelin sheets which is the prime cause of this.
Eating right so that these can heal can be a great great contributer to
your healing and recovery.
I suggest this eating regime:
Primrose oil: 2capsules in the morning with breakfast, 2 in the
afternoon with dinner, 2 at night with supper. (Must be taken with a
protein so it's absorbed up in your system for effect)
Primrose oil is great at rebuilding the myelin sheets and nervous system
Fish oil: 1 before sleep
Fish oil is probably the most known natural mental health supplement it
has helped heal brain damage, help brain fog, schizophrenia etc. etc.
Vitamine complex: 1 pill in the morning
Vitamine B complex: 1 pill in the morning (vitamine B has been reported
on several OCD forums I've been at as a great supp to lessen the
thoughts and mind noise in their heads)
Zinc supplement: zinc is great for mental health and health generally, 1
capsule in the morning and one at supper is all that's needed.
Flaxseed oil: 1 capsule a day
I suspect in very few cases will this eating regime alone eliminate
DP/DR(although SOME reports of people changing their intake of
food/supps has magically cured their brainfog and dpdr) it will atleast
help a great deal.
Also eating healthy is good, fruits, vegtables white meat etc, yeah this
almost sounds like some sort of training gainweight/lose weight diet
but, logically eating the healthiest will make you healthier.
You are what you eat is a fact in physics not just a setence.
Your body reproduces cells every fucking second, give it the best and
it'll reward you for it.
After all, ITS YOUR BODY.
Avoid these: sugar, cigarettes and coffee
Again I'm guilty as charged in all of these, I used to be smoking 20
cigarettes a day and consuming gallons of cocacola (lot of caffeine and
Everything that ends with INE is negative for you and will make your
situation and condition ten times worse, all INE's are stimulants and
increase anxiety, pulse and heart rate.
I'm no preacher, but sorry nicotine caffeine amphetamine cocaine heroine
is not good for DP/DR.
So if you like me loves cigarettes, this will be the greatest time to
quit and when your recovered from DP/DR you'll be so glad you did it and
now you got a GOOD reason to.
Another thing is that quitting cigarettes is a goal, it's dicipline,
taking control over one of your bad habbits, which in itself is great
selfesteem boost it's also a good way to start breaking other habbits
like DP/DR thinking, isolation etc.
Plus it will increase your health enormously just the first months, just
the first few weeks it'll increase your smell/taste and breathing and
lower your chances of heart attack etc.
Sleeping & Exercising:
The reason I bring this up is because first:
sleeping pattern is very important in recovering, you must have a
routine and sleeping pattern that is stricktly followed in recovery
After all sleeping is when your mind body and yourself actually get the
chance to rest
I've been close to recovery many times but fuckedup just because of
either lack of or over sleeping ONE day and I've completely relapsed.
8 hours is needed, no more, no less. It will also give your life
structure and routine and give back sense of contact with reality in
some sense, such as concept of time, dates, day/night structure and
Exercising will help you get better sleep and rest, cause if your doing
nothing but sitting in a chair all day long reading forums and symptoms
and studying for the magic pill or answers to your endless questions
your body is basically in a half sleep mode all day long.
Another important thing with exercise is that it'll help you reconnect
with your body, you'll use it and thus identify with it more again and
fee it as you did PRE-DPDR'ed.
Also getting in better shape physically is proven to help you mentally.
It's also a great distractor and way of reconnecting life, ecspecially
if your gaining/losing weight, it'll be a little goal besides recovering
and you'll see changes and be happy etc.
There's tons of good reasons why exercise is great but it's almost
essential in DPDR to quicker and better recovery I think.
Changing your thinking pattern:
This is the biggest and maybe most important part of your recovery
(think I've said that about 5 times now, but it's true).
This one goes for PureO/OCD/Panic/Depression too.
The cause of your irrational thoughts and fears lies within your brain
chemistry & mind.
So by changing your thinking you'll alter your brain chemistry, this is a
well known factor in buddhism called mindfulness.
This will take about a month before you really start noticing that the
fears/thoughts aren't as intrusive and VIVID anymore but it'll happen if
First realize these thoughts are directly a result of your temporary
condition, not braindamage/any truth in the thoughts.
Then you gotta learn to let the thoughts go and refocus on something
else, everytime one of these thoughts come, realize its your mind on
crack giving you false information and no matter how anxious you become
let the thought be, don't fight to ignore it, just let it be, "Be the
witness of your thoughts" but don't interact.
Humans got approximatly 64 000 thoughts a day, 90% of them is pure
bullshit and most are not even consciously aware of most of them.
If these thoughts came to you in your sleep you wouldnt give a damn and
just label them as subconscious nonesense dreaming, do the same here,
cause it is EXACTLY what it is.
Immediately change your focus outwards and try thinking of something
else, something RELEVANT to your life & the present moment and
immediately DO something.
This is VERY important in changing your behavior, kind of what CBT is
about I guess.
Re-entering reality and never looking back
Getting to the point where you start re-entering reality means getting
outside the house daily again, socializing, letting go.
It involves more than just stepping outside your house, it means getting
into reality again.
You need to get your hobbies interests back again, cause this is what
forms your life.
Anyone can go around as a numb observer of the world, but participating
in it is the only way to recover.
This is all subjective experience of the objective reality. The
objective reality itself won't give you any meaning. It'll give you
inspiration, but it's you subjectively who choose what destiny and path
of your life will be.
Now taking something as simple as playing cards means this for you:
"moving your hands and picking up some cards with symbols on it and try
to get certain cards to win".
Thats your DPDR'ed non meaningful dereality, when your emotions come
back it's a GAME again, a game that the purpose is to WIN, and the
winning gives you a feeling of luck, happiness and achievement.
Even if it's just something as small as a fucking cardgame.
You've got to let go of the notion that reality will just SHOW IT'S
GRAND MEANING AND EXISTANCE to you again, cause it's you who create your
OWN experience of reality.
The best way to realize this is maybe by watching a child, he can pick
up a branch of a tree and play with it all day long, it's giving him a
meaning in his life because he LETS it and is dedicated with it.
Thinking and analyzing why people are as real as you won't make you
suddenly EUREKA THEY ARE REAL. No, engaging in social life and activies
will do this.
It'll become just as obvious to you that these people are conscious as
it is that you are.
Analyzing people while thinking "are they real, do they got minds" etc
while looking at someone will do you no good. You need to stop analyzing
and rather go out and experience, then it will be revealed and obvious
Once your starting to recover and get out of the thick DPDR fog, you
must NOT look back.
Just a little thinking about it in the first period after recovery is
like smoking weed again(if this is what induced it for you). It'll bring
it back in seconds.
i've had numerous experiences where I've become a little better for a
little while then have a little relapse and it has sent me straight back
into it fully if not even worse for months.
When your getting out, theres no turning back, for some REALITY just
suddenly is there again, and this is a shock.
It's like you've been trapped in this dark tunnel for so long and when
your out the bright sun light is a shock on your eyes. in the same sense
is reality to you when your realizing it again.
You go from being deluded almost asleep passive observer of what you
hope to be reality to suddenly BAM being in it again fulltime, everyone
around you is real, NOTHING is under your control, the world is there,
existance is there again. Too some this can be overwhelming and
frightening at first.
The good news is that it'll take you maybe 1-2-3days to fully be ok with
it again and feel normal. After all THAT IS reality you've lived in
your whole life. It'll come back to you quick and you'll be so happy and
excited, but don't let the excitment ruin the recovery for you.
You need to go slow, but not too slow.
If you have a relapse and feel DR/DP'ed, quickly distract yourself and
not let the fear get hold of you, you've been down that road, it leads
to more anxiety, more dp dr, more waste of your life.
When I say quickly, I mean like RIGHT AWAY, don't lock urself up for a
day or two just to "feel cool" again, do it IMMEDIATELY before it takes
over your mind.
It'll be hard, but it's the only way you'll keep recovering...
If you suffer added PANIC DISORDER, I suggest getting some
anti-anxiety(not too strong) pills in emergencies, just incase when your
out of your home and safezone get a panic attack you can take a pill or
two just to calm down and keep distracting yourself.
DP/DR do's and don'ts
Participate in life (self explainatory)
Get new hobbies and interests (change is very advantagous to cure this
disorder and it'll refocus your mind)
Make new friends (again change factor, plus new friends mean non
Have sex (sex is the most fundamental emotional and instinctive of all
human behavior so enganging in it should bring fourt the human in you)
Fall inlove (this is hard while DPDR'ed, but if you manage you'll be
cured faster than anyone)
Make music (if your an artist, self expression through music is
the best way to spark emotions and unleash your own)
Listen to music (if your NOT an artists listening to others will do the
same, music is played on instruments by the creator but plays on the
emotions of the listener)
Make art (drawing/painting is another way of self expression so
if your good at it, do it, if your not good at it but want to be, pick
it up as a new hobbie and learn it)
Express yourself (every person feels the need to EXPRESS themselves,
find someone who listens and take a long chat with them, very
therapeutic and also connecting, to others and therefore yourself again.
Distract, (already explained)
Make socializing your second nature (explained before)
Stay occupied. (explained)
Party (but without drugs, if you manage alcohol without increasing DP/DR
great, it's a good social event and also drinking increases social
behavior and let your guard down a bit)
The list is endless....
Isolate yourself (staying in the tunnel)
Dwell on DPDR (dwelling is burrying yourself alive)
Think deep thoughts (just increasing your DPDR and anxieties)
Study shit that scares you (it won't lead to anything good, trust me)
Spend more than 1hour on the computer a day(not even on dpselfhelp)
(computer is a way of "escaping reality which is the opposite of what
we're trying to do)
Letting this disorder take over your life (self explainatory)
Do drugs(yeah it sucks but ECSPECIALLY if your DPDR was drug induced
stay the fuck away no matter if you recover, you'll kill yourself and
never forgive urself if u recover, do drugs and relapse.)
Some exercises that'll help you on your quest to sense of self and
Body scan meditation:
This exercise was brought to my attention by a member of dpselfhelp:
It's basically a exercise to reconnect your body and also "the present"
according to LostSoul who's managed to temporarily "recover" using this
technique a few times.
The trick is however when you manage to enter your body again NOT to get
too excited as it will "shoot you up in your mind" again.
This is what you do:
Lie on your back with your legs uncrossed, your arms at your sides,
palms up, and your eyes open or closed, as you wish. Focus on your
Breathing, how the air moves in and out of your body. After several deep
breaths, as you begin to feel comfortable and relaxed, direct your
attention to the toes of your left foot. Tune into any sensations in
that part of your body while remaining aware of your Breathing. It often
helps to imagine each breath flowing to the spot where you're directing
your attention. Focus on your left toes for one to two minutes.
Then move your focus to the sole of your left foot and hold it there for
a minute or two while continuing to pay attention to your breathing.
Follow the same procedure as you move to your left ankle, calf, knees,
thigh, hip and so on all around the body. Pay particular attention to
the head: the jaw, chin, lips, tongue, roof of the mouth, nostrils,
throat, cheeks, eyelids, eyes, eyebrows, forehead, temples and scalp.
Do this for 15-30minutes twice a day.
Increasing/training your senses:
Again thanks to LostSoul
This is a Buddhist technique, used by buddhist munks to train their
senses and awareness of their environment.
In the sense of DPDR what this will help is take your inward focus and
turn it OUTWARD to the reality again.
You do this by taking one sense a week
Let's start with the ears:
My suggestion is that you spend 30minutes a day this first week going
outside somewhere your not disturbed and close your eyes and try to
focus your hearing on different things outside.
The greatest spot will either be out in nature or some balcony in the
city, try to distinguish and focus on different sounds.
Also listen to music, but not with headphones on as this will feel
"isolated", so tune up the speakers and put on some of your favourite
music you used to love and try to pay attention to the melody, try to
follow it with your ears.
This has a double effect, first increasig your hearing and hopefully
spark some memories you have of that specific song/music.
Next week take the eyes which might be the worst impairment of DPDR,
your visual perception:
This one you can do all week actually, but atleast dedicate 30 minutes a
day to REALLY do it.
Try watching moving objects, such as cars, flying birds etc, follow them
with your eyes intensively.
Another is the in and out focus, place a finger infront of your eye and
focus on it, then focus on the "background", by doing this you stimulate
the eye muscles.
Also try looking around you all the time, don't just look dead out in
the air as your sleep walking or something.
You must really try to focus your vision on the world again.
Then it's smelling:
Same here, you can do this all day, all week, but atleast spend 30
minutes a day.
Here only your imagination can stop you, try smelling everything,
flowers, perfumes, food, aroma's, soap, chemicals, anything that'll
stimulate your sense of smell.
A fellow contributer and DP sufferer at DPselfhelp told me she
temporarily felt normal again by the smell of burning leafs and aroma
So maybe it'll also spark some memories and reality recognition in your
Another infinite possibilites, I suggest buying tons of fruits and
different food this week.
Touch everything, try to feel different objects, nature, animals, don't
ponder it's diversity, just feel without question.
If you got a girl/boyfriend, feel/touch them a lot to.
Again, you'll have to use your fantasy, but go further than touching
"I am" mantra exercise:
This was handed to me by my psychiatrist actually it's a very simple
You basically just sit still and take deep breathes and while inhaling
say "here I am" or "i am me" or "here I *your name* am".
Then exhale and feel the air leaving YOU.
The point of this is to locate yourself and body again.
Looking in the mirror:
This "technique" is really just something I've come up with the last few
weeks, it's nothing special but i think it might be effective.
Basically it just means looking at your reflection through out the
day(not bdd obsessively) but just so you see yourself objectively(cause
in DPDR you've lost sense of objective reality and objective thinking)
So seeing yourself objectively over and over again might spark memories
Another thing you can do is care for how you look, try playing "dress
up" game or wtf you want.
Get some variation in your looks and take care of it, connect to your
Also try standing beside a friend/relative or something in a reflection
and see that ur just the same, ur not alone, this is hard to "figure out
and see" from a first person perspective.
Basically find some photoalbums from your childhood, social events etc.
Look through them and try to remember how it was, try to connect with
the event as it was.
Try to spark the memory of it
This is a way you can try to wakeup your SOUL and YOUR relationships
with people and the world as it once was.
Staying with friends and talking about the past is probably the best way
to connect with memories of your real life, one thing is to sit alone
and think about it, but when your with others they'll bring up memories
you've forgot and can share them and it hopefully will spark some parts
of your memory which is currently out of reach, but it is permanently
intergrated into your mind so don't be afraid, it's not lost.